How grocery shopping can reduce your overwhelm.
I don’t know about you but there have been times when I have not felt like I can cope with my feelings. Occasions when the sense of overwhelm, quite simply, overwhelms.
The mind goes into overdrive and problems become insurmountable. You see more obstacles than solutions. Your angst causes you to wake up in the middle of the night, tossing and turning, unable to sleep. You feel out of control.
And as much as you tell yourself that you should be grateful for XYZ in your life; that other people are doing it tough; that you should write down your feelings; do some meditation or any of the ‘positive’ actions that you think you ‘should’ or ‘ought’ to do. You just can’t. Quite frankly the thought of being positive makes you angry. All that hippy, happy stuff just ain’t going to cut the mustard as far as you are concerned. It can go take a running jump into that pile of ‘stuff’ you keep looking at and put off doing.
And do you know what, I hear you. As much as I will advocate all of the above positive stuff because it really does work (and there are many studies showing their effectiveness), there are times when it’s ok to have your ‘moment’ and stick two fingers up at positivity. There will be times, when you are not wanting to be all joy, light and Ms Gratitude. And there are times when actually, doing all the gratitude and mindfulness means that you are avoiding dealing directly with what’s going on in your life. You actually, at some point, need to D.E.A.L with it.
There said it. Ignore the light and fluffy and get down and dirty.
Take a deep breath and sit in that maelstrom of emotion, obstacles and problems. Welcome them in.
And observe them. Really observe them. Then disengage from them.
Imagine for a moment that you are in a supermarket and that your thoughts and feelings are products on a shelf. Take one (feeling) off the shelf and examine it like you are looking at the ingredients of a food item. See what’s in it. Do you need to ‘buy’ it? What will it do for you? Will it nourish you or not? It is a necessary item? Really disconnect yourself from the feeling and treat it dispassionately as an inanimate object that you need to make a simple decision on, just like your supermarket shopping. Do I need it or not?
By adopting this process, you are acknowledging and accepting the feeling or situation but what is important is that you are taking the power away from it and putting yourself back in control. You are not trying to deny or avoid its existence which can end up being more damaging. Once you are back in control and owning the situation, you can start to see solutions a lot more clearly which further reduces the sense of overwhelm and loss of control.
Just like doing your grocery shop, when you search the product information, you are gaining the factual information you need to inform your decision making. When you view your emotions as a product, you are looking at the content in a more detached way.
And there is not a scented candle or gratitude journal in sight!!