I’ll be frank, being a mother is not something I have always enjoyed nor did it come to me naturally. It was the hugest shock and biggest blow to my ego that I could never have imagined possible.
Yes, I absolutely love my kids and think they are brilliant individuals that continue to amaze me and make me smile.
But I am just one of those individuals who does not thrive under the banner of ‘Mum’- I take my hat off to those of you that absolutely relish the role and it is your life purpose – I don’t envy you but I am sooo glad that you have found your calling and passion. It’s just not ‘me’ and I have come to terms with that and I am comfortable with it.
Now I am happy to speak all day on the fact that some of the corporate world have yet to leap into the 21st century when it comes to their attitudes and policies regarding mothers who have just had children or want to return to the work force.
However, I have no control over these companies and their policies, I only have control over what I choose to think and the actions I choose to take. Yes, I have been subjected to some outdated attitudes once I had my first child and then second and don’t get me wrong, I did spend a short period of time feeling frustrated, blamed my employers, and did the general woe is me and my lot!! But ladies, I hate to break it to you – it really is not much fun staying in that place!!! Having the personality that I do, I tend not to stay in victim status for very long – just long enough to have drunk a few decent reds, shared a couple of good meals whilst driving close friends crazy and utilised a box of tissues or two!!! I then move into taking ‘no prisoners’ mode and stick 2 fingers up and go, ok, what can I do to resolve this situation as I’m not going to let someone else call the shots in my life? And I’ll let you into a secret – it’s really a lot of fun especially if you are a control freak – (Alright, I’ll rephrase that into something softer………. like to be in charge of your destiny!!!)
Photo source: Heidi Lender.
It’s funny – there is this concept ‘out there’ of a perfect mother. How do I know this? Because there is so much criticism in the media of how so many of us are doing it wrong that there has to be a perfect ‘right’ way – hasn’t there?
As if we do not feel enough internal guilt, there is the media’s favourite past time of vilifying mothers: stay at home, working mums, celebrity mums, mums with depression, over ambitious mums – whatever path you choose it seems there is someone there to tell you what you are doing wrong, not what you are doing right.