4 Steps to turn your dreams into reality
We all have dreams about things we would love to do right? But how often do they stay as dreams – I’m guessing once you are bogged down with family life, probably a lot more often than you care to admit.
I get it, family life can be exhausting, time consuming and expensive. So that brief moment when you fleetingly dream of being on a deserted island with a cocktail in hand or wishing you could have a spa day gets pushed to the back of the mind when the kids start yelling the proverbial “Muuum……” chant.
My mantra when I was pregnant with my first was that having children was not going to stop me from living life. Yes, life changed as I knew it pre-child but it didn’t stop me from creating a life which included chasing some of my dreams.
For example, I love travel. That is up there on my top 3 loves and I am constantly thinking about places I would love to go to. Having children did not stop me, if anything, travel increased. For me, experiencing different cultures and locations is an important part of life education so I wanted my children to have access to that and encourage new ways of being, eating and living so that they grow up with a greater understanding and empathy to the world they live in.
Because travel and all it encompasses is important to me, I make it happen. I’m very much a say ‘yes’ and then work it out later, kind of person. By the time my son was 10, he had been to more countries than his age (something he was very proud of!) and I had achieved a lifetime ‘dream’ of trekking to Machu Picchu whilst raising monies for Cancer Research.
No, we were not a mega wealthy family, far from it – I just applied simple strategies to turn my dreams into reality and below, I am going to share with you how you can also do this.
Step 1 – Make a commitment
Say ‘yes’ to your dream and then work out how you are going to make it happen. If you make that commitment you are more likely to succeed in making your dream materialise. So, for example, sign up to the course you have been wanting to do and work out the child care afterwards. If you have paid a deposit and you have committed to another person then chances are, you will find a solution to the child care issue. Do it the other way around, i.e. wonder how you will get childcare in order to attend a course, then chances are you will think of more reasons not do it and your dream remains as just that.
Step 2 – Start planning
So, you’ve said ‘yes’, you need to start to plan to make it happen. It might be that you need to find the money to fund your dream. Work out how much you need and work backwards from your end date to calculate how much time you have and how much you need to put away on either a monthly or weekly basis to reach what you need. If it’s something like childcare, start working out when and for how long you will need care and work out whether friends/family can assist or if you need to find a child care place and where they are available.
Step 3 – Think outside the box
Perhaps your dream may cost more than you have spare to put aside – how else can you make it happen or what can you do to earn extra income? My trip to Peru was funded partly out of my pocket and partly through fundraising (a minimum amount had to be raised to cover some of my costs and also for the charity ‘pot’). Do you have a hobby that you can turn into cash through school fete’s or online? Is there something you can cut back on in the family budget? What can compromise on? Would an online course be cheaper than a face to face course? Can you DIY a trip by approaching hotels directly – I saved lots of money to places such as Thailand by booking directly rather than going through a travel agent.
Step 4 – Get accountability
Tell everyone who will listen about your dream (which is now going to be your reality!). Not only does that mean that you will have to make it happen, you may also find that people can offer useful advice or practical help. In general, people are really happy to get on-board and help when they can – it makes them feel valued. So really, it’s a win, win situation.
Now you have my top tips for making your dream a reality, what’s stopping you?
Grab that glass of wine, pour a nice bath (and lock the door!) or head down to your favourite café and start putting together your dream action plan.
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Here’s to your success!
Pssst! Got a really huge dream you want to make happen but keep telling yourself it’s impossible, then check out my book for even more strategies and key actions to creating a life on your terms.