3 tips to get you through a tough work day.
As many benefits as there are to working and having an identity apart from being ‘mum’, there are days which can be tough, especially if you are going solo. You might just want to throw the towel in or wonder why you are doing what you do or simply want to hide under the duvet and stick your fingers in your ears!
Don’t get me wrong, this doesn’t mean it will always be like this. But life being life, it will throw you curve balls and, on some days, you will rise like a true champion and on other days you will find yourself reaching for tissues and your best mate.
And there is nothing wrong with wallowing in a bit of self-pity or self-righteous but beware you don’t wallow for too long. It’s not going to solve anything or do you any good long term.
So aside from a good cry; good friend; bottle of wine and maybe some chocolate, what’s a girl to do?
Tough day tip 1
Don’t take it personally – it’s been a low turnout for a workshop, people have cancelled or just not kept their appointment and the self-doubt creeps in. You start telling yourself that you’re not good enough, that your prices are wrong or people don’t like your product – you get the picture. That little voice keeps chipping away at your self-esteem. Or it maybe you are pacing around the room telling yourself that people are so inconsiderate, rude, fussy – whatever word you think is applicable. You get angry and frustrated.
Stop. Right. Now.
Have you ever cancelled, been late, not turned up etc? Chances are if you have, you have felt that you have a valid reason or justified it to yourself. That’s exactly the same for your customers. Kids might have been ill. Partner might not have got back home in time to take over child care. Unexpected bills may have arrived. It may simply be they are too knackered to think about doing something else. Sound familiar? It’s purely and simply about what’s going on for the individual and not a personal vendetta against you.
Tough day tip 2
Remember the good stuff – Without a doubt along the journey, you would have had some great comments and feedback. Make sure you keep track of this, whether you create an electronic file, paper file or even a journal. If it is verbal praise, write it down as soon as is convenient to do so. Keep every positive thing that has been said or written. Also, record any great conversations or gesture (someone sent you flowers for a job well done, write that down).
Then when you are having one of those days when you are wondering if it is all worthwhile, bring out the file or journal. Remind yourself of the great work you have done to date. The appreciation and the awesomeness you have created and delivered. If that doesn’t make you feel warm and fuzzy then nothing will!
Tough day tip 3
It’s feedback not failure – You’ve received a complaint or a feedback form has had a couple of not such great comments on it. Sure, it’s not going to feel great. It may feel uncomfortable. BUT it’s not the end of the world because now you have a benchmark for improvement or tweaking. Remember you are in this for the long haul and whatever your venture is, it is not going to be perfect from day 1. Do you remember the first iPhone and how amazing everyone thought it was? Now look 10 years down the track and this phone has evolved into something somewhat different from the original. That’s not just down to development but to feedback and undoubtedly, complaints. Get into the habit of seeing feedback and complaints as an opportunity. An opportunity to learn, evolve and ultimately, provide what your customers or team want.